- Awareness of the Inner Child. Recalling that the primary energetic method of healing is to witness another as whole, affirming with a wide open heart, paying attention to your child’s callings is a critical first step.
- Gather mementos, tokens, pix, creations of yourself in the early years…Build a sacred space where these can be prominently displayed around the house. Tend this altar daily. Appreciate and celebrate this little one. Place a seed in a pot on it and tend it. The flowering will become a metaphor for your flowering relationship.
- Start paying close attention to children, especially the younger ones. Let this witnessing become a catalyst to your own memories of being a child
- The point of the relationship is to heal the distance between the two of you by making a safe, supported, nurturing world for your little one. This takes time, commitment, and follow through. Talk to your child. Bring her along with you wherever you go. Do things, get things for him. Remember together. Gather some art supplies and get into primitive art. Learn together and create together. Get agreement from the family if necessary to start including your little one in meals and other events. Go on purposeful excursions with your little one and talk about them. Play a lot. Make sure they are as active as possible. Having said that go ahead and find some of the games you played as a child on ebay…get them and play them together.
- Establish a written non-dominant handwriting relationship with your little one. Use your dominant hand to greet, ask questions, respond to your child. Let her respond with the non-dominant hand. Yes, it may be a bit illegible in the beginning, but it will quickly get better. Be patient and encouraging. Grow together…remember, you are building trust and safety. Make this writing dialogue a regular thing, daily if possible. Set a time and show up. Do it in the same place. Build regularity and trust.
- Start a journal with the two of you. Daily or more than once a day entries are a powerful testimonial to the evolving connection. Ask specific questions of your little boy. Talk together about childhood events and traumas. Be patient and let the connection unfold. Talk about feelings and ask why certain body conditions have evolved. Start re-educating her perspective about the past events where she made decisions. Negotiate with him to let go of control. Always affirm your commitment through action. Remind her that you are there for him, always available, and that you will never abandon him.
- These kinds of consistent activities will develop in trust. She may begin to fill in the blanks of childhood. You may learn about things you never knew. Believe her. Work with the revelations and move to allow the release of the emotional baggage. Cry together. Populate your house with color and light. Gather and make available stuffed animals and see how he uses them.
- The point, as you can see, is to nourish the relationship. Let it unfold by showing up. Do things together. Go out fro ice cream. Always imagine she is with you. Establish boundaries and give her some structure. Tell her how to handle his challenges. Talk about love, Light, Evolution, Remembering, and more…
- On and on it goes…a true unwavering relationship built on love, devotion, belief, and celebration.
